| People come and people go. That is life. People move on or move away. We ourselves move on or move away. Our relationship with others are in constant movement. It’s naïve to think a relationship will stay the same. Let’s not kid ourselves. Time cannot stand still.
We kick and yell, punching and pulling, fighting to keep a relationship the same, battling the test of time and distance. And when we lose the fight (and we will), we are left empty, drained, lost and confused. Sometimes, the relationship changes so much, it becomes broken, unmendable. The hurt so deep, it scars, it leaves holes. We become jaded, blaming others, blaming ourselves. Is this pain worth it?
Despite having said all this and still feeling the reminents of past broken relationships, and knowing that relationships will change, I still invest in them because I know they’re worth it. Some people let the past hold them back. Others let the future block their paths. I think we need to just recognize and realize the times we have right now in our relationships are opportunities to learn from each other, grow together and for God to shape our character. Most of the time, I believe relationships change for the better. Changes bring the relationship to the next level, deepening and refining it to reflect God's love and grace. Change is good. Change brings new perspectives.
Looking around me, I see the people God has surrounded me with, I see the environment that I'm fortunate to be in and I see how the combination of these people in this environment have resulted in the relationships I have in my life. I know that things will be different in a year. I know that things are going to be very different in a few months. Good changes? Bad changes? Doesn't matter. Changes nonetheless. I have to let go and just let things unfold. Sometimes the harder we try to hold on, the harder God pulls them away from us because he wants us to hold on to him instead. People come and go but good thing our Father remains!
The leaves are turning colour, a new season is approaching. I live a life of change and hopefully, a life that is changing and changes others. |
but
every once in a while, I do catch myself entertaining these thoughts.
And most often, the more we think about something, the more we start
believing it. This is a temptation I need to resist.